Pages

Showing posts with label parenting 101. Show all posts
Showing posts with label parenting 101. Show all posts

WAEC Results Aftermath: Educational System Fail, Parents Fail or Social Media Fail?


So the WAEC results are out again? This exam is written to complete
your secondary education and prepare for tertiary education.

This year only 31.28% of those who sat for this exam obtained up to 5
credits including English and Mathematics.

My question is what is the problem?

The Educational System?
It's no news that standards have fallen and that the responsibility of
education has been placed on "private shoulders" who are more
interested in gain.
The system needs an overhaul. Why should a seven year old be allowed
to be in year 4 (primary 4) when his proprioceptive system is barely
developed?
Have the authorities studied the developmental milestones in a child
so they can set appropriate targets, goals and methods for every class
or level?
Are our methods of learning up to date?
Children are already "trained to become dull" from the Nursery stage.
Instead of placing 3-5yr olds in a stimulating environment to learn
through exploring and developing a pattern for reasoning, the children
are subjected to cramming all manner of information.
The motive of under fives going to school is just "keep them busy"
instead of developing their sense of reasoning.
"You can't teach "giftedness", but you can "retard" development
through lack of stimulation."-Lynne Michael Blum, MS, PhD.
Anyway this is another day's talk.

2) The Parental System?
Yes we are all working hard to "give our children the best" but what
do the children want? What do they really need? Is it a vaccation to
Walt Disney? Is it the latest PS2? Is it to get into the best schools
to get the best education?
All these cost money, but what about our time?
"Education is what's left after you forget all the facts you were
taught in school"- Einstein.
As a result a parent has said:
" Leave the teaching to the school and concentrate on educating your child".
You are the coach and cheer leader your child needs. You may not know
everything about maths, for example, but you shouldn't transfer your
"fear" of maths to your child. Show genuine interest in solving the
problems...
Coach your children into developing a "love for learning" and self
discovery from an early age rather than just getting good grades.
A love for learning is what gets you on in life; that's actually what
produces the good grades.

3) Social Media fail?
Let's face it; the media has become an integral part of our children's
lives. In addition to the television we now have satellite TV, mobile
phones, video games and social networks.
These new media are not good or bad in themselves and are totally
dependent on the user. On one hand it can help the child become better
educated on the other it can expose them to vices that they won't
ordinarily have come in contact with any other way.
It is still the responsibility of parents to not just "regulate" their
children's use of new media but also to "educate" them on the virtues
and vices.

What are your thoughts on this issue?

Raising Outstanding 8yr Olds


By Michael Grose.

Eight year olds are increasingly complex, more capable and far chattier than they’ve ever been. This is the last year for many children before puberty starts to impact. Many parents find that this age is the most enjoyable of all, as children are very capable, and also want to soak up all that their parents want to give. Here are some tips to maximise this wonderful year:
Prepare yourself for peers to impact
Peer comparison is sublte but impactful, causing some children to change their interests, activities, toys and passions to match those of their peers.

Get ready to talk
You may discover a new willingness to talk with you that reflects her wider vocabulary, more sophisticated thinking and a broader world view. 

Give responsibility and ignore their forgetfulness
Your eight year old needs to feel a sense of mastery, so it’s time to give over plenty of responsibility (if you haven’t done so already). 

Let overindulgence cease
If overindulgence has been a theme of your parenting until now, then consider changing to avoid brattiness or worse, in adolescence. 

Be prepared for hurtful behaviour
This seems to be an age when “I hate you” is directed at a parent more than just about any other. (My book One Step Ahead has some great tips for dealing with retaliatory behaviours.

Allow them more privacy
Don’t be surprised if you see a sign on her bedroom door with “Kids only. Adults keep out!” 

Win the bedtime battles
Bed-time battles often emerge as this age as children want to stay up and spend time in the adult world. Downward trending of the age of first use of technology means that mobile phones and all types of screens are on an eight year old’s radar. 

Keep them busy
Many eight year olds have full calendars of after school activities, which is commendable. Eight is a great age to explore different options before the complications and awkwardness that comes with adolescence become another factor to negotiate.
This is a short extract from the 20 page Comprehensive Year Ahead Planner for raising eight year olds that's available for Parentingideas Club members (as well as planners for every other age from 2 to 15). Take a FREE 14 day trial now.