Why Should Your Career Advancement "Threaten" Your Partner?

Bill Clinton Has Been Supportive of His Wife,Hilary's Political Career

It's interesting how we grew up with the mindset that you shouldn't be too successful as a woman so you can find a husband. We also heard of stories where the wife who is a "boss" in the office continues her "bossship" at home and eventually the marriage breaks up.

If you ever read the book of Proverbs  chapter 31 in the bible, you would see that it talks about the virtuous woman... And many times you are left to wonder who her husband was and what his achievements were.

The truth is that a strong man always stands behind his wife; that's the position of support and encouragement. Why does he need to feel threatened because his "queen" is doing so well?

My husband has always been my coach. I never asked him for one day to occupy this position, he just did. Initially, I didn't understand why he chose to stand behind me and not in front or at least beside me. He just kept researching and suggesting how I could be better. But I would think, what about him? Why wouldn't he take that opportunity instead of passing it to me? Now that I'm more mature I'm ever so grateful that he is my coach. And now it's interesting to see that scientists in the American Sociology Association have also concluded through research that wives with even more education than their husbands are no more at a higher risk of divorce.

Here's a bit of their observation:

"Rather than doggedly adhering to norms that wives should have lower status than their husbands, men and women are increasingly forming relationships in which women have the educational advantage -- so much so that it is now more common for wives to have more education than their husbands than the reverse pattern," said Schwartz, who co-authored the study with Hongyun Han, a research data analyst in the Feinberg School of Medicine's Health Disparities and Public Policy Program at Northwestern University."

"The relationship between one's educational attainment, marriage formation, and risk of divorce appears to suggest that couples are adapting to the demographic reality that women have more education than men."

Schwartz and Han found that couples married between 2000 and 2004 in which both individuals had the same level of education were about one-third less likely to divorce than those in which husbands had more education than their wives. By way of comparison, couples married in the 1950s in which both individuals had the same educational attainment were just as likely to divorce as couples in which husbands had more education.

A strong man doesn't need to be intimidated by his wife's progress rather he ought to be a part of it. He should be supportive and committed and the woman should learn to submit to his counsel after all there is no team that doesn't pay attention to their coach.

Enjoy your life!